Do not read any further if you think it is a bad word.
Where to start? Well I suppose the idea popped into my head after a conversation last weekend when I was reunited with an old friend. I do say "feck"maybe a little bit more than I would like to admit. To me I never classed it as a swear word, it's synonymous with the Irish. I was just chatting to my Mammy and my God Mother, Aunt Mary I asked them their thoughts? My Mammies response "sure that’s not a swear word at all". "We use it affectionately with no malice intended".
Growing up in Ireland, there are a lot worse words one could use.
So I'm going off in a tangent best just stick to "Feck". So, I said, to my friend that I didn't think it was a swear word. I asked her if she saw it that way and she said yes. I was in shock, to me it is not, as one friend affectionately put it. It is not the “other rhyming duck word" Love that.
So basically my friends thinks I curse a lot. Oh no!!!!
So to tell you a little bit about the word . It is a popular minced oath in Ireland, it's between the ultra-mild expletive 'flip' which I use too, unselfconsciously, I might add. To me it's an Irish word, we have the copy write. She says with a grin on her face. It covers a broad range of functions.
It can mean (exhausted, ruined, in a bad situation), and if you want to rev it up a notch and intensify the word. One tends to add 'hell', 'eejit' or 'gobshite'. I do love 'eejit', just a nice harmless way of saying someone is lacking in the grey matter department.
'Feck' is family-friendly, even according to advertising standards. As bad words go, it is harmless, playful and unserious. I am telling you now, if an Irish person was genuinely furious with someone or want to be properly abusive, they would not use 'feck'. It just isn't strong enough of a word. Not that I would know.
'Feck' doesn’t have sexual uses or connotations. To feck something in Hiberno-English generally means 'to steal it' or 'to throw it'.
I must admit that in the 1990's with the help of Father Ted the word might have been used a bit more and been given a bit of a rebirth. Father Jack who is synonymous for shouting “Feck off!” thus turning it into his catch phrase. If you look at Mrs. Brown's Boys, todays popular TV series the language is stronger in my opinion. I must admit I do have a bit of a love hate relationship with that show.
Today the word is naturally used. Do not assume it's bad.
I have been private messaging some friends to see how they feel about the word. Out of over 50 people only one person said they were offended by the word. I am not going to lie, don't know how anyone could be offended by it. But each to their own. We're all God's children. Two people were mildly offended and everyone else seemed to embrace the word. In most cases it has no malice. I think it depends on context and tone.
I admit, I use the word but don't necessarily want my daughter saying it. But my lips do turn up when I hear it and a wee smile forms. I am sticking to my guns I don't think of it as bad but then... I'm Irish! If my Mammy says "it's not a bad word" always trust your Mammy. She has never let me down yet. So there you go 'feck' has a lot of meanings, uses and origins.
I'll sign off for now. I think I have said it enough.
Aisling in Bahrain x